RSS may well be the glue that keeps much of social computing from coming unstuck, but open, personal gumpf might well be the glue for communities.
Mick LaSalle of the San Francisco Chronicle has a humble theory that makes a lot of sense. [via Life With Alacrity]
As for why people get hostile when they hear a differing opinion, I go back to Spinoza’s definition of love and hatred. He says that people love that which they think reinforces their survival and hate that which they think threatens their survival. I believe — this is just my humble theory, now — that when people hear an opinion that counters theirs, their minds extrapolate from that one opinion to imagine a whole philosophical system. And then they imagine how they would fare in a world run according to that imagined system. So they go from disagreeing to feeling threatened in a matter of seconds, and they lash out. Often they write letters that begin, “You are obviously,” and that’s where they identify, not you, but the phantom they feel threatened by.
Rings a lot of bells. And it made me think how important all the personal gumpf that people put on their blogs, that they wear, joke about, decorate their homes with is.
So I did a little exercise: what’s the difference between the following two comments (apart from verbosity)?
1. I love guinea pigs so much that if someone was hurting them I would disinter their mother from her grave and scatter her bones to the four winds.
2. I get really cheesed off when people jump the queue; ooh - I love cheese - could eat stacks of it; Granny was such a wonderful, kind human being, I’ll miss her so much; and God the cricket was tense!! Does anyone else ever get that feeling that you’re just not as good as everyone else at something, that you’re a bit of a fraud? This made me laugh!!
Here are some pics of Victoria, our first-born - I feel unbelievable proud, both of her and my wife. I love guineau pigs so much that if someone was hurting them I would disinter their mother from her grave and scatter her bones to the four winds.
For me, if I was just to hear the first (as I did on the news the other day), I’d feel sick. And I suppose I did go through the whole Spinoza phantom hate thing.
If I was to hear the second, I think I’d , if nothing else, be much slower to start the Spinoza cycle. I think my first reaction would be shock - an “eh? beg your pardon? your joking right?”.
And the reason for that would be in the openness of the previous comments. In many respects they’re just guff, but they allow me to draw a broader picture. Not necessarily of anyone I’d want to spend a lot of time with, but someone I can at least begin to empathise with.
And while streams of consciousness may fill up aggregators with unwanted details, they do allow you to build some sort of relationship.
It’s probably an extreme example, but it did make me think how much more ready I am to engage with what someone is saying if I know a bit of gumpf about them, however silly or trivial, and (importantly) that they have chosen to be open about.